When we want to enter a relationship we always look for our future partner to provide us with stability, trust, security, peace of mind, love, being a team, among other things and that's fine, the problem is when we begin to depend on all this, thus generating a dependency emotional and believe it or not, it is more common than it seems, because it is normal that you feel connected with that person, but it is not someone you need to live or be emotionally stable.
In the relationship there will always be one who needs more than one feeling or attitude of the other, especially that their attention and time is always based on this, which could generate anxiety or depression at the time they are arguing, that they do not speak or They can't be together all the time. In addition, the person with emotional dependency tends to generate manipulation before the other person, that is, if he does not want you to go to a place alone or accompanied because he will feel alone, abandoned, unprotected, among other excuses, you are being manipulated under his emotional dependence.
Finding ourselves in this type of situation is asking ourselves how emotional dependence affects the relationship and it is precise: in addition to psychologically damaging the victim, it also fully affects the dependent, since he is not a self-sufficient person and that the relationship will also be unstable.
Likewise, emotional dependence is related to the lack of self-esteem and security, because this type of person has doubts about himself, if they really love him as he expects, he makes an effort to please others, but he does not feel happy with it and with fear of being abandoned, transmitting this to their partner or making the relationship not last.
How to identify the emotional dependence of our partner?
- You prioritize your partner's desires, putting your own aside.
- Fear of being without a partner.
- May the relationship be the primary and most important thing in your life.
- Low self-esteem.
- Insecurities that generate jealousy.
- Need to stay with the partner at all times.
- Put aside your preferences and tastes simply because you do not share the same as your partner.
- Wanting your partner to accept your whims and requests all the time.
- She doesn't feel good when she goes out without her partner or when the partner goes to another place without her.
- be submissive
Identifying how emotional dependence affects the couple relationship is of the utmost importance, because it allows us to alert ourselves that we have to know the person well enough before they become a couple. In addition, if you have a partner with emotional dependency or know someone with this situation, it is advisable to suggest that if they want to see a psychologist, because in addition to favoring them, they also do so with the people around them.
