Is it advisable to continue having contact with the ex-partner?

When a relationship ends it is normal to go through the grieving stage, which, although we believe that it will be eternal, the truth is that it is not, we will feel angry, sad, confused, guilty and others, especially if we have been in that relationship for a long time, but this will stop mattering at some point. In addition, it is common for us to have some uncertainty about wanting to know about our ex-partner when the relationship ends because the feeling is still intact.

In the same way, after the breakup we always ask ourselves if it is advisable to continue having contact with the ex-partner and in many cases the answer is no, because, being a painful stage, we tend to feel confused about what we continue to feel. towards that person, to the point of wanting to talk to him or write to him, this being a mistake, because it would be removing the feelings and leaving aside the damage he did to us if that was the case.

Likewise, we must accept the reality that once the relationship is over, it will be the healthiest thing for us, allowing us to focus on important things, such as our personal projects, new horizons, employment, family, friends and possibly a new love. Once the breakup happens, we must release that pain that we have inside, but we cannot stay stuck there.

Also, believe it or not, our brain plays a trick on us by making us believe that we need to continue having contact with our ex-partner , but we should not do it, because it will make us look like a dependent person, desperate and anxious to know about someone. that surely we are no longer interested, possibly it has been a couple that marked your life, but it is recommended not to continue having contact with the former partner.

Even continuing to have contact with our ex-partner can generate insecurities, false hopes, emotional instability, emotional dependence, stagnation with our projects, difficulties in finding another partner and that we do not fully heal. That is why if you want to put aside this link, seek psychological help, distract yourself, support those who love you and focus on your life.

Although, it should be noted that it is advisable to continue having contact with the former partner as long as there are children involved, family businesses, projects, lawsuits and debts.