Advantages and disadvantages of getting back with an ex

Ending a relationship is almost always a hard time that is difficult to overcome, due to all the time they spent together in which they achieved many things and others remained to be fulfilled. Similarly, there are those who in the week of mourning decide to return with an ex, either because the reasons why they ended were not complicated or because they simply want to return. It is necessary to keep in mind that if you are going to get back with an ex it is because the feeling is mutual.

If the relationship ended due to infidelity, physical and/or psychological abuse, humiliation, verbal aggression and all of this caused you physical and emotional wear and tear, it is better that you do not even think about going back with your ex, because it will not bring anything positive and it will hurt you again. . To heal these wounds, you need to see a psychologist and learn to enjoy solitude.

In the event that they have children and that the aforementioned aspects have been presented by one of the two, it is best that they end and the relationship that remains is simply to know about the children. The problem is not that children grow up without a father or mother, the problem is that they grow up surrounded by unstable parents who are always arguing.

Advantages of getting back together with my ex

1. They already know each other: One of the advantages of getting back together with an ex is that they already know each other, they know what each one likes and dislikes, they have strong sentimental connections, it will not be difficult for them to get back together, go out and enjoy themselves.
2. They will not make the same mistakes: If they finished and made the decision to return, it is because they will not make the same mistakes , because in this way you are offering them a new opportunity to change and be a better partner, behave in a better way and be more respectful.
3. The relationship may be better: If they ended for small reasons that can be corrected without any problem, once they return the relationship may be better, because in addition to already knowing each other, they will know what they should not do again so as not to harm each other again.
4. The return is more intense: According to experts on the subject, they assure that returning with an ex , the return is more intense, because the hormones intensify and the reconciliation would be much more pleasant than before having finished.
5. It is better for the children: Given the case that they have children, if they return it is better for the children, because, believe it or not, a divorce or separation directly affects the children, their emotions, behavior and feelings.

It should be noted that it is good to return with an ex as long as it was a sincere, respectable relationship, full of love, trust, with a lot of peace and tranquility.

Disadvantages of getting back with an ex

1. Nothing will be the same as before: One of the biggest disadvantages of getting back with an ex is that nothing will be the same as before, and that is that resuming a relationship is difficult if there was a serious reason that caused the marriage or courtship to end. Regaining trust and love is complicated and sometimes it is better not to risk it.
2. You can end up more hurt: Possibly the relationship has not ended so badly, but going back would not be a good option because they are not 100% sure and in this way you can end up more hurt , so the relationship would not be the best again way.
3. You lose the opportunity to meet other people: If you go back to your ex even though this relationship has not been healthy, you lose the opportunity to meet other people, because you are wasting time with someone who no longer loves you and in a space that is no longer favorable to you.
4. He will manipulate you: In the event that the relationship has not ended on good terms and that in one way or another they get back together, you begin to notice that he is still a bad person, he will manipulate you so that you do not end the relationship, either by mistreating you or forcing them to be together.
5. We become dependent on that person: Many times, returning with an ex makes us become someone who has no criteria or feelings towards himself, as well as making us dependent on that person for anything.

For its part, it is necessary to emphasize that it is not good to go back with an ex when there has been mistreatment, humiliation, infidelity, lack of trust and others. In this case it is better that you stay alone until you feel completely safe to be with someone again.